Her questions and her struggles still manage to stay universal for any number of applications. Should the reader take a genetic test? That question is never posed by Shapiro. This was the challenge that had been set down at my feet. How had I lived my life without being able to answer that first and most fundamental of all questions: Who am I? Without the answer, how could I possibly have fully moved on to the others? Why am I here?. Fine lines and and arrows dipped and swirled in elaborate patterns and channels that I found at once disconcerting and comforting.

Hanging on the wall next to me were several Eastern medicine diagrams of the human body. I lay on that table for what seemed like hours. “Do you know the three great spiritual questions?”he asked. At one point she visits an acupuncturist, who helps with the procedure and with her mental struggle: This beginning line of identity reaches out into other possible recklessness in not knowing her family’s secret: were there heredity health conditions at stake? Would she give herself away, and her new-found family away, in her mere mannerisms? Sorting the discovery itself, the path of finding family, and continuing to serve her work obligations, Shapiro does her best to set the record straight with medical professionals, including pain management for the stress of “shouldering” these events. Shapiro not only has to bridge the genetic truth, but a religious one, crossing from a strong Jewish heritage and continuing lineage with her son into finding herself reconciling her new discovery with Christianity. That previously doubted intuition is what Shapiro utilizes when she starts the search for her true genetic history, even though the reader sees her cross back into doubting herself several times in the journey of discovery. Shapiro had spent over fifty years sitting in discomfort and doubt with “facts” she had no reason to doubt, and, with the communication of results compared with her half-sister, confirms that doubt, even though she was not seeking out the confirmation when she took the test. However, the memoir does not stop at mistaken ancestry Shapiro cannot help but demonstrate how our intuition works to assert us, how decades of doubt can be inherited as well as decades of assumption.

I knew the premise: Shapiro took a genetic test on suggestion from her husband and was surprised to find out her parents were not who they said they were. But her latest memoir, Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love, touched me in a way that I didn’t expect.

I’ve read Dani Shapiro before Still Writing is probably one of my favorite memoirs of the writing life on my shelf.

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